Are you fed up of hearing another one will open?

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When one door closes … yeah, you know that tune.

Have you hit a tough spot in your life?

Maybe you didn’t get that great job you applied for. You were the perfect fit, but someone else got the gig.

You had your eye on that special person for months, but it turns out they fancied one of your mates.

Maybe this is a simply a period in your life where it all feels like one big shit show.

Nothing seems to be going right. At least, nothing is going the way you want it to.

And then someone says, “When one door closes, another opens!”

You’re maybe not quite ready to hear it. …


And it was money well spent

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How often to you actually just have time to sit at home? Not doing anything in particular and not feeling the need to.

Just one little hour away on your own. As much as you love those kids, they barely sit still. Your partner can never find whatever it is they are looking for. Work is quite frankly demanding and exhausting.

The thought of a whole day of silence, with no-one calling your name, would be better than any holiday.

Or maybe you can’t think of anything worse. …


“Curatedness” is what you need

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Want to be not just a writer, but a happy writer? Then you need to nurture “curatedness.”

Let’s cut to the quick, “curatedness” is not a word in the English dictionary. That’s because one of my friends made it up about two days ago when we were talking about writing successes and failures.

Well, it’s not in the dictionary yet, but I’m making a case that it should be.

Just smash the words “curated” and “mindfulness” together, and you get “curatedness.” It’s about how any of us aspiring writers can choose to approach writing.

More importantly, it is about how we can approach life in general, but we can come back to that later. …


That pooch has got all the moves!

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It’s a funny old time.

There’s a virus on the loose and we seem to have very little idea how to control it.

You are maybe feeling a bit more anxious than usual?

Some days you just wish for the old, common-day stress to come back. You know, the mask-free kind of stress, where you didn’t have to give everyone, even those people you like, a wide berth.

Well, it’s time to crank up the music and in the words of Taylor Swift, shake it off!

You may think you know stress relief music, but your dog has actually got the moves that turn any music into stress relief music. Intrigued? …


What animal do you see?

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The deception of perception, what does that mean? Tell me first, what animal do you see in that picture?

This sketch went viral on social media about 4 or 5 years ago. I was introduced to it on my meditation retreat just recently.

Some say a duck, and some say a rabbit.

If you saw just one animal in the beginning, go back to the picture now and you will see the other one too.

The duck-rabbit drawing was first used by American psychologist, Joseph Jastrow, in 1899 to illustrate that perception is a mental activity, and not just a case of what one sees. …


A raisin is not always what it seems, and neither is life

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Life lessons from a raisin?! Let me explain. On a recent retreat, I was asked to get to know a raisin.

“Spend some time tasting the raisin and fully appreciating its texture as well as its flavour,” I was encouraged. I resisted the urge to devour it pretty much whole, and dutifully spent some time with my tiny new friend.

If you are unfamiliar with Mindfulness, I probably seem just down right weird right now. …


Why conspiracy theories are gaining ground

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Photo by 🇨🇭 Claudio Schwarz | @purzlbaum on Unsplash

The underground is mainstreaming. Conspiracy theories are gaining momentum.

From sovereign citizens who don’t believe in government or the rule of law to anti-vaxxers, from those burning 5G masts to QAnon-ers who believe in a nefarious group of individuals secretly running the world … they all have one thing in common.

They are often citing COVID-19 as a potential hoax and the restrictions put into place as a conspiracy by a certain elite.

Existing conspiracy theorists see COVID-19 as a vehicle of tangible truth and proof of all that they deem to be true: that “they” are seeking to control our minds and stop us asking questions. …


They are quite possibly the 95% who will change the fate of our planet

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Various market research groups point to double-digit annual growth for the global vegan food market. Meat shortages during the COVID-19 pandemic have fuelled this trend, along with questions around whether meat is good for our own health and that of our planet.

The vegan lobby has been advocating a fully plant-based diet for a long time.

But maybe you get cold turkey (excuse the pun) just thinking about giving up meat altogether?

You like the odd burger. What’s wrong with that?

Suffering with a delicate digestion since my late twenties, I abandoned meat. …


How to be grateful for what you are, rather than what you have

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My daughter was 5 years old when I announced my decision to separate from her father. I had decided long before that that our relationship wasn’t working, but had decided to do the right thing, stay and make it work.

“Be grateful for what you have,” I told myself.

“Surely all relationships hit rocky patches when a baby arrives,” I constantly reminded myself, brushing under the carpet all of our problems for a number of years.

Have you found yourself doing this too? It doesn’t have to be a relationship. It can be in any area of your life.

We are socially conditioned to do the right thing. We are programmed to follow a set of accepted rules; rules we tacitly signed up to and that are now guiding us blindly to unhappiness. And then we are reminded constantly that we should be grateful for what we have. …


Why laughter is the best medicine and how to bring more of it into your life

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When was the last time you laughed?

Really, really laughed.

Laughed so hard your sides hurt. Laughed until you cried.

I remember being at a dinner with some team members and our clients and their partners.

It started from the smallest incident. Whilst talking, my German colleague accidentally projected the smallest amount of spittle right into my British colleague’s beer. The latter subsequently delivered one of his characteristic, off-the-cuff responses, promptly drank the beer and licked his lips.

Our German colleague’s laughter became uncontrollable. …

About

Lou Gibbons

Midult, marketeer, mum and meditation teacher (in no particular order). Helping people to be happier. Join me at www.bestyoubestlife.com

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